The Untold Struggles of Marriage: What No One Tells You

Just to give you guys a backstory, I was married in October 2022. 

That marriage didn't last long due to multiple types of abuse. 

Divorce proceedings began in December of that same year. 

Since then, I've had plenty of time to look back and reflect.

One of the things I've been meaning to write about is the hidden truths that no one tends to talk about or tell those who are on the path towards marriage. 

I don't know if it's considered taboo, but I'm not afraid to discuss it. 

One of the biggest and probably controversial? 

1.) No one warns about the possibility that you could have low or no sex drive and that getting married won't magically fix it. 

To add to this point, men are often led to believe that they should just get it on demand; no one guides them into realizing they might need to wait and be patient; both spouses may need to seek professional help; and that it's not the most important thing in marriage. 

2.) It can be incredibly difficult to share a bed with a spouse who snores like a sailor or constantly wakes up their significant other to ask random questions that can always wait until the next day. Sleepless nights can easily hurt the marriage. 

3.) Having sensory issues can bring annoyance and irritation from the everyday noises of the spouse, causing a loss of attraction. 

4.) In pre-marital counseling, they don't teach you about marriage abuse or look for signs of it. 

5.) No one tells you about the tremendous weight on your shoulders when the other spouse decides they don't want to pull their weight to work and help pay the bills. 

And just to be clear, I'm referring to someone who is physically and mentally able to work but simply chooses not to. 

This is the list I came up with, and will do another post soon surrounding the topic of abuse.